I was reading CLEO magazine yesterday and there was an article asking us to think which kind of male attracts us and turns us on. Accordingly, there are three types of males. The Alpha Male, the dominant one who is always the leader and always in control. The Beta Male is the one who is very positive-minded, ambitious and might consider dethroning the Alpha Male. The Omega Male is the type of men who are subservient, mellow and just goes with the flow but romantic and is unafraid to express his feelings…basically, Omega type are usually considered the ‘followers’ or ‘losers’. The Alpha Male and the Omega Male are on total opposite ends of the spectrum while the Beta Male is in the middle.
I found myself asking myself that question. Hhhmmmm….looking back on all my past boyfriends, most of them were either Beta or Omega…never Alpha. In fact, if I were to choose one, I would say the Omega type of men attracts me more. I don’t like chatterboxes, people who likes to dominate and be in control. I prefer mellow type of men with deep emotional control instead. I like my men to be a little shy but bolder behind closed doors. Most of the men I’ve dated in the past seem to be Beta or Omega, you know. Don’t know why. Maybe it’s because I am a little Alpha….they say opposite attract mah, rite or not.
Read this for details on how they use this to classify heirarchy in the animal kingdom
More about Human alpha, beta, and omega males
Have I ever had problems with Omega males? Yeah, DEFINITELY. Some of them are so submissive that I need to make all the decisions for them. Some of them go too much with the flow that they forget about themselves and sometimes me. Some of them can just sit there and wait for something to happen while I am the GO GO GO person…they are the WAIT WAIT WAIT people. *sigh*
But somehow or the other, I prefer my men mellow and a little quiet. The moment they talk too much, I turn my switch off unless they’re super-duper good-looking, of course! In my mind, a man who is too full of himself, does too much self-promotion, and thinks he’s the center of the Universe is a big turn off. When in a group, my attention always turn to those who are cute but sits at a corner listening to the conversation. Of course, too much aloofness is no good either. The perfect guy would also have a good sense of humor with perfect timing wan. Can make me and the rest of the people laugh without too much effort. Dunno….too much boasting does not go down well with me. As a joke fine. I assume that the Alpha male is this kind…don’t like! Anyway….
This year’s (2007) Most Eligible Bachelor choice not too nice lah. A few gwai-low looking ones here and there but some really beh-kwa (not worth looking at).
yes u are saying absolutely right. i am dominate male like alpha but i am also like omega male like shy and innocent touch,
From this article, I think I have married an Omega man. Maybe too Omega already, if there is such a thing cos my family and friends would say I ‘bully’him (Where got???).
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Then hor, sometimes very kee see lang, cos when we are out, I am the one leading and in restaurants, I am the one ordering. Either way, it doesn’t matter who pays because what’s his is mine and what’s mine is MINE!
But many a times, I would prompt him to pay because I feel that a man should pay for bills.
Then when we are out at parties, where there are loads of unfamiliar faces, he tends to find it hard to socialise and I have to prompt him to speak to this person or that person.
Over all, he is a homebody and prefers to be with company he is familiar with and happy with his books, tea and family life.
Do I sound like I am very ‘frustrated’?? Yet many a times, I look at others and thank God my husband is my husband who definitely is not afraid to be romantic and affectionate and does not expect me to do any housework except cook. Hehehe….
Wow, thanks Marsha, I have released something here. What a therapy.
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Eh, for the first time, we actually like the same thing!!!
I also prefer Omega men but then ah, like you said, sometimes can really kek-sei-lei wan lor! But come to think of it, any type of men also can drive you bananas, rite? As long as they’re men, they’ll potentially drive you crazy wan mah. Wah, your husband is really good lah, please don’t complain lah. Wait until you get a husband like mine who thought he married a maid wan! Except for the paying bills part….eh, men must at least TRY to pay for the bill lah. Where got nice women pay all the time. Not that we dont have money but then ah….not nice mah, rite or not? Give your husband a little bit more training, then he is perfect liao!
Ehh??? Changed your header again? This is a good idea. The attraction of coming back not just to read what you have posted but also what is the header going to be like today.
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Hee hee hee….very gatal lah, my hand
Marsha, you so farni wan…..hahahaha…
You better come and train my husband to pay bills lah. I tried to 20 years already. **Big sigh**
Also, he’s such a skintflint! **Double big sigh**
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Eh, man. I have not even trained my own husband properly yet how can come and train yours? And if I suksespul, I can tlain yours for u…but must pay $$$$$. Very lui-bin me these days!
I think I want to have Beta male…right in the middle. not too aggressive and not too passive. just nice…i hope
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me too me too!!! *jumping around like a siow-lang* (mad person)
The alpha male of a pack represents continuation of the species, it’s typically the lion or the wolf which the females prefer to mate with.
The omega male, however, isn’t sitting in the corner listening to the conversation, he’s sitting there planning the downfall of mankind. The alpha male sees himself above the rest, the omega sees everyone as equal, united under the flag of an inevitable death. the omega sees himself as the end.
Food for thought, Sanguis…
It’s not inconceivable though, that the omega-male harbours secret alpha-male ambitions…Causing him to be frustrated every time he fails to meet his own expectations…The Omega-male could therefore decide to use females’ expectations of his behavior to realize his alpha-male ambitions…In other words, he could try to fake being mr. nice guy in order to get layed. This behavior would then come into conflict with the belief system that supports his omega-position leading to intense feelings of guilt.
Maybe identifying yourself as an omega-male should go together with denying yourself alpha-male goals of conquest. On the other hand, not allowing yourself to accept the identity of an omega-male could prompt you to learn strategies that will satisfy you alpha-male ambitions and that do not come into conflict with your belief system.
I prefer alpha males.
I have often thought that there is more than two categories of males, but it seems to me there is, yet another type that I have never heard mentioned but I have often seen portrayed. I like to think of it as the anti-alpha, and he shares many of the same characteristics as an alpha, but he has some distinct differences. He wants to be neither leader, nor follower, typically a loner. His talents are equal to those of an alpha, except socially. He may have the ability, but chooses to be much less social than an alpha. He may excel at sports or other activities but they are solo endeavors, and seldom team activities, and the most obvious trait is his dislike of alphas.
You see this character portrayed in movies, and books, but how often do you meet someone who could be classified as an anti-alpha, and how do women view this category of male?
DFCtomm, Hhhhmmmm….good one, good one. Never thought of it that way. However, it’s extremely hard to pin down one person’s character and merely stereotype them into categories. The best we can do is to roughly gauge. there’s bound to be differences and overlaps no matter how we try not to.
An Omega male is always ahead of the game. A true Omega male thinks the possible consequences of his words and actions. As a result, the Omega is relaxed knowing what may come at the end. Many women would have a difficult time when Omega males make decisions because much of females’ decisions are irrational on purchases and opportunity costs. Most advises and ideas that Omega males get stolen by Alpha males because Alpha male like to get the fame. However, the Alpha males do not know that Omegas leave important details so that the stolen ideas would not work. As a result, Alpha males would make themselves look like a fool in the end for failure to make things work.
GAY COCK!!!!!
@DFCtomm: I call that the Zeta Male (more for amusement value than anything). It’s the category I consider myself to be in. I don’t want to lead, I don’t want to follow. The world is full of examples of lone wolves and the like. (Notice how alphas always compare themselves to large carnivores? They rarely refer to themselves as being the head buck rabbit, or the ram of the flock.)
Honestly, though, I think it’s a little naive to expect them to fall neatly within our alphabetical categorizations.
I’m a massive cocked love monkey who fears nothing sees all and is def not an alpha. I’m not just being crude but very honest, where would u guys pace me? Apart from the sanitorium. I would say I’m a psycopath and a pervert but in a nice controlled way. And believe all men have this in them…profile me J)
all males are alpha and omegas before they get married, alot of alphas become omegas after they get married. Beta males are the most abundant, and there are alpha-beta hybrids called al-Fetas.
LOL!
Zeta Male = Omega in denial
Alpha beta and omega?
What a horrid generalisation.
Essentially you’ve dumbed it down to asshole, sycophant and masochist without even pausing to consider that there could be people beyond this shallow categorization of 50% of the population.
Maybe I’ll write an article about alpha, beta and omega females where the alpha is the narcissistic whore that goes after alpha males, the beta is the one who just wants a ‘nice guy’ but continually fails and the omega is the freakish octopus stalker who wants everything in life done for them then lies in hammock wondering why they got so repulsively obese all day. This would be so /EASY/
But then I’d be ignoring the multitude of incredible people who seek to control their own lives and ignore arbitrary yet primitive pecking orders and actually do something for themselves. Rather than controlling or submitting to other people like the rest of the fakers in this fucking thread, these people search for someone who isn’t bound by these stupid constraints.
This article is bad and you should feel bad!
Well, I am a loner but I am not a clueless dork. I had a very attractive girlfriend who latter left me for somebody else who turned out to be a wife beater, I have no problems talking with women, I train Krav Maga and other forms of close quarters combat and indulge in plenty of physical solitary activities like taking long walks, bicycle rides, hiking etc. I’m an avid reader of science and sociological topics, plus fiction and I am an aspiring writer.
I am not interested in the least to be the spot light, nor do I depend on the approval of my “mates” to feel myself important. I am loyal to myself and I am perfectly in tune with my solitude. I dislike Alpha males who are captains of fools’ ships.
So maybe I am an “Omega”, but I am not a dork, nor am I socially inept. I’m just the nihilist who smiles when your ship is sinking, reminding you “I told you so”