I was reading CLEO magazine yesterday and there was an article asking us to think which kind of male attracts us and turns us on. Accordingly, there are three types of males. The Alpha Male, the dominant one who is always the leader and always in control. The Beta Male is the one who is very positive-minded, ambitious and might consider dethroning the Alpha Male. The Omega Male is the type of men who are subservient, mellow and just goes with the flow but romantic and is unafraid to express his feelings…basically, Omega type are usually considered the ‘followers’ or ‘losers’. The Alpha Male and the Omega Male are on total opposite ends of the spectrum while the Beta Male is in the middle.
I found myself asking myself that question. Hhhmmmm….looking back on all my past boyfriends, most of them were either Beta or Omega…never Alpha. In fact, if I were to choose one, I would say the Omega type of men attracts me more. I don’t like chatterboxes, people who likes to dominate and be in control. I prefer mellow type of men with deep emotional control instead. I like my men to be a little shy but bolder behind closed doors. Most of the men I’ve dated in the past seem to be Beta or Omega, you know. Don’t know why. Maybe it’s because I am a little Alpha….they say opposite attract mah, rite or not.
Read this for details on how they use this to classify heirarchy in the animal kingdom
More about Human alpha, beta, and omega males
Have I ever had problems with Omega males? Yeah, DEFINITELY. Some of them are so submissive that I need to make all the decisions for them. Some of them go too much with the flow that they forget about themselves and sometimes me. Some of them can just sit there and wait for something to happen while I am the GO GO GO person…they are the WAIT WAIT WAIT people. *sigh*
But somehow or the other, I prefer my men mellow and a little quiet. The moment they talk too much, I turn my switch off unless they’re super-duper good-looking, of course! In my mind, a man who is too full of himself, does too much self-promotion, and thinks he’s the center of the Universe is a big turn off. When in a group, my attention always turn to those who are cute but sits at a corner listening to the conversation. Of course, too much aloofness is no good either. The perfect guy would also have a good sense of humor with perfect timing wan. Can make me and the rest of the people laugh without too much effort. Dunno….too much boasting does not go down well with me. As a joke fine. I assume that the Alpha male is this kind…don’t like! Anyway….
This year’s (2007) Most Eligible Bachelor choice not too nice lah. A few gwai-low looking ones here and there but some really beh-kwa (not worth looking at).
yes u are saying absolutely right. i am dominate male like alpha but i am also like omega male like shy and innocent touch,
From this article, I think I have married an Omega man. Maybe too Omega already, if there is such a thing cos my family and friends would say I ‘bully’him (Where got???).
Then hor, sometimes very kee see lang, cos when we are out, I am the one leading and in restaurants, I am the one ordering. Either way, it doesn’t matter who pays because what’s his is mine and what’s mine is MINE! :))
But many a times, I would prompt him to pay because I feel that a man should pay for bills.
Then when we are out at parties, where there are loads of unfamiliar faces, he tends to find it hard to socialise and I have to prompt him to speak to this person or that person.
Over all, he is a homebody and prefers to be with company he is familiar with and happy with his books, tea and family life.
Do I sound like I am very ‘frustrated’?? Yet many a times, I look at others and thank God my husband is my husband who definitely is not afraid to be romantic and affectionate and does not expect me to do any housework except cook. Hehehe….
Wow, thanks Marsha, I have released something here. What a therapy.
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Eh, for the first time, we actually like the same thing!!!
I also prefer Omega men but then ah, like you said, sometimes can really kek-sei-lei wan lor! But come to think of it, any type of men also can drive you bananas, rite? As long as they’re men, they’ll potentially drive you crazy wan mah. Wah, your husband is really good lah, please don’t complain lah. Wait until you get a husband like mine who thought he married a maid wan! Except for the paying bills part….eh, men must at least TRY to pay for the bill lah. Where got nice women pay all the time. Not that we dont have money but then ah….not nice mah, rite or not? Give your husband a little bit more training, then he is perfect liao!
Ehh??? Changed your header again? This is a good idea. The attraction of coming back not just to read what you have posted but also what is the header going to be like today.
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Hee hee hee….very gatal lah, my hand
Marsha, you so farni wan…..hahahaha…
You better come and train my husband to pay bills lah. I tried to 20 years already. **Big sigh**
Also, he’s such a skintflint! **Double big sigh**
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Eh, man. I have not even trained my own husband properly yet how can come and train yours? And if I suksespul, I can tlain yours for u…but must pay $$$$$. Very lui-bin me these days!
I think I want to have Beta male…right in the middle. not too aggressive and not too passive. just nice…i hope
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me too me too!!! *jumping around like a siow-lang* (mad person)
The alpha male of a pack represents continuation of the species, it’s typically the lion or the wolf which the females prefer to mate with.
The omega male, however, isn’t sitting in the corner listening to the conversation, he’s sitting there planning the downfall of mankind. The alpha male sees himself above the rest, the omega sees everyone as equal, united under the flag of an inevitable death. the omega sees himself as the end.
Food for thought, Sanguis…
It’s not inconceivable though, that the omega-male harbours secret alpha-male ambitions…Causing him to be frustrated every time he fails to meet his own expectations…The Omega-male could therefore decide to use females’ expectations of his behavior to realize his alpha-male ambitions…In other words, he could try to fake being mr. nice guy in order to get layed. This behavior would then come into conflict with the belief system that supports his omega-position leading to intense feelings of guilt.
Maybe identifying yourself as an omega-male should go together with denying yourself alpha-male goals of conquest. On the other hand, not allowing yourself to accept the identity of an omega-male could prompt you to learn strategies that will satisfy you alpha-male ambitions and that do not come into conflict with your belief system.
I prefer alpha males.